December 10, 2012 - Msg 91431: Thank you, Asa. I appreciate it.

I'm with you, I think the Christmas ep is so good. I haven't watched it yet. I usually save it for the week of Christmas but might watch it this week since we are finally getting some winter-like weather and it feels like Christmas time.

Better git..I am helping with applications for the toy drive again this morning. They are supposed to be working on a float for the Christmas paraded today, too, but the wind is very blustery and cold and I don't know how on earth they are going to decorate a float in this weather. Ironically, the theme is something about a beach christmas. Yesterday we were all in shorts and flip-flops in 85 degrees and today its pretty chilly.

Better hoist myself outta this chair and get moving. I woke up this morning with one of those "auras"...those of you familiar with migraines will know what I mean. I don't have a headache yet but I am feeling foggy. I get C-shaped, rainbow colored, flashing thing on the left side of my field of vision and it slowly gets bigger and bigger until it disappears. Strangely enough, it is a fairly common thing among migraine sufferers.

Boo
December 10, 2012 - Msg 91432: Good morning, porch! Winter has arrived in Irving. The birdbath is frozen over, it's 32°, was a little colder earlier, and we have "snow". Exposed flat surfaces have a crystalline frost accumulation - it made a pretty pattern on the seat of a wrought-iron chair on my back patio. Boo, maybe I'll email you a couple of pics of our snow, and you can post them on Facebook, since I'm not on there.

I join with Asa, in prayers for Sean. I'm so sorry that such a sweet boy has to deal with such a vexing problem. Maybe the Lord is allowing this for a reason. Someday Sean could be a psychologist, or a counselor, working with people with similar problems. Who would understand them better than he?

You mentioned the aura before a migraine. You know, I used to have migraines, about 25 years ago. Miserable things! I know what you mean about the aura. Mine was a light, like yours, a deep C-shaped, almost circular pattern, and the lines of the C were zig-zaggy, like rickrack. It was very bright, started out tiny, right in my central vision. When it was there, I really couldn't see anything other than in peripheral vision. It isn't in the eye, it's in the brain, because I could close either eye and it was still there. As you said, the pattern would gradually widen, until my central vision would be clear and the peripheral would be obscured. Finally, it would just go away. Well, when I stopped my little weight-loss attempt and quit using artificial sweeteners, my headaches disappeared and have never returned. The visual disturbance, however, appears now and then. Rarely, maybe two or three times a year, but it's just like the old auras. The blessing is - there's no headache. Since I stopped the chemical stuff, I haven't had a migraine, or any kind of a headache. Nothing. I can't remember the last time I had a headache. God is good.

Well, better go see what R&R are up to. I just saw Richard at the pond with a leaf net, dipping the leaves out. Those two are constantly looking for something that needs to be done, and trying to do it before I catch them. Again, God is good.

Blessings, porch! --Romeena
December 10, 2012 - Msg 91433:
Morning porch family

Boo....I continue to pray for Sean....And Ro is so right...God could use this to help others through Sean in years to come.

Ro...Brrrr...that's kinda chilly for you guys. We are still pretty warm right now on this end of the porch.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY to our very own Floyd today......I think he's giving free cuts for the occation..lol Have a great day Floyd and as always, THANKS for giving us the gift of "The Porch"!

Got a concert tonight so I better get things ready.

You all have a blessed and Jesus filled day.
Love and prayers
-REV.
December 10, 2012 - Msg 91434:
Ans SWISH...Thelma Lou's tail cleans the porch! (:
December 10, 2012 - Msg 91435:
I love the part where ben sings whilst lookin thru the bars of the window. But then that begs the question, if it was so
cold out, why was that window not covered?? ha
MDC
December 10, 2012 - Msg 91436: Afternoon porch, checking in. a very dreary and rainy day today in Northeast, Tn. It has rained all day literally. but supposed to be clear tomorrow.

working on getting ready for Christmas. I have my end of the porch all decorated and am thinking about making cookies this week end. I could use some help and taste testers as well.

MDC, my son has been home this school year anyway. He has been working a Co-op job for school since May. He will go back to school in May 2013 to finish his senior year and graduate Spring 2014. Beth is a freshman at East Tenn. State University. They have an off campus site about 2 miles from our house so she is going there this year. Both kids at home and seem to be doing well.

Happy Birthday Floyd. Thanks for keeping us rocking.

better get back to work.

Dinner menu: meatloaf, mashed potatoes, peas, corn. rolls. apple cobbler for dessert with vanilla ice cream. tea, soda to drink

Prayers and blessings to all.
Big Maude
December 10, 2012 - Msg 91437: Come On MDC You should know the answer to that one!!....He's got his long-johns on of course!!
So he didn't want the windows covered..ha G-F...

(plus whe he drank the shine he wasn't feeling the cold anyhow).....
December 10, 2012 - Msg 91438: No Ben was not a flasher, he just did not need the window closed because he had his long-Johns on, there for between the L-J'S and the shine he was not feeling any pain or the cold. I just wanted to clear that up so no rumors get started.
Ya know how those gossip'in women are....ha
I better tread gently I already got in trouble with some Texas females a couple of days ago ;}

I was about ready to watch some football but I better watch Heide instead. Just hope they don't break-in with football at the good part...
I really hate it when that happens...G-F
December 10, 2012 - Msg 91439: 11-17-1968
The Oakland Raiders score two touchdowns in 9 seconds to defeat the New York Jets and nobody saw it because NBC switched to it's airing of the movie "Heidi" when the game ran past it's alloted time. The NBC switchboard recieved so many calls it fried the switchboard. Legendary game G-F. :)

Asa
December 10, 2012 - Msg 91440: Well, brrrr! It's just 39° here right now. How cold is that? Dang cold! I think I'll move the thermostat up another notch. Poor little Toye Starr is on the floor, and it's colder there than what I'm experiencing. She's no dummy, though. She spends a lot of time up on the back of the couch.

Our Bentley (my granddog, David and Brittney's dog) had surgery today. He had a lump on the outside of his ribcage, and they removed it. Also had to remove a tooth for some reason, not sure why. David says he's not a happy puppy, but will be okay. Now we wait for the pathology report on the tumor they removed. Poor little feller!

Well, guess I'll go rustle up something to eat. It's lonesome around here without Robbi and Richard, or R2 as they're affectionately known. It makes me hapy to be around them, because they seem to be so happy together. Richard is a really good guy, and they're good together. They're kind and respectful of each other, and that goes a very long way.

Blessings, porch! --Romeena
December 10, 2012 - Msg 91441: Romeena, I can feel you're glowing from clear over here as you talk of those boys...Robbie & Richard....Richard,... What a fine name for a boy ;)
You better get them squirrels some hot chocolate ya don't want them to get cold. Speaking of squirrels, I thought of you Saturday I had a beauty "posing" on my back porch post it was eating one of the peanuts I put out for them he was perched so neat I tried to take a picture but the camera focused on the window screen so I could not get a good shot. I it was really enjoying the peanut, I think thay are getting tired of my acorns.

Asa, I knew you would get the Heidi clue, my,my time sure goes by..1968 I remember us watching it and the uproar over it. Sure would have been bad to be the head of NBC after that one!
G-F....
December 10, 2012 - Msg 91442: That is funny Ro that the way you described your aura is exactly, to the letter, the way i experience mine....great minds, I guess. ;) I sure hope Bentley is ok...please let us know what the pathology report shows.

Thank you for the prayers and encouragement concerning Sean. I know things could be so much worse and the Lord is at work. I agree completely that the Lord has allowed it for a reason. We all have our struggles in life and some are much worse that what Sean is experiencing.

I got most all my Christmas shopping done yesterday and today so i am a happy, happy camper!

The parade tonight was fun. Erin rode on the float with St. Susan and Sean and I sat in the yukon under a quilt and watched in comfort. It was actually chilly for a change and i love it. After the parade we drove to Starbucks and got hot chocolate. It was a very enjoyable evening. I love small town tradition and parades.

Having more trouble with mom-in-law this week, but I will spare you the details. I am praying to remain true to my integrity. :)

It's 40 degrees here and feels heavenly. :)

Boo

December 10, 2012 - Msg 91443:
HAPPY BIRTHDAY FLOYD, AKA ALAN!!
December 10, 2012 - Msg 91444: One great thing I meant to share: I ran into Jill this morning...she is the oldest daughter of my deceased friend, Karen. She has been married to an abusive, alcoholic for years (named Brian)...long story. Recently her husband's young brother died of an undiagnosed congenital heart problem and Brian went to be checked out and turns out he has it too and could literally drop dead without notice. They put in a defibrillator but it isn't always effective in such cases, they told him. After that news, he started laying off the alcohol and last week, the pastor of the little baptist church in the town they live in visited them. Brian and Jill went to church last sunday and Brian came to the Lord and was saved. This news really made my day. God is so faithful to answer prayer!

Boo
December 10, 2012 - Msg 91445: Oh, and HAPPY, HAPPY BIRTHDAY ALAN-POO!! ;)

Boo
December 10, 2012 - Msg 91446:
Boo and RO, I get that same aura sometimes!
But have never had any headaches with it. It just starts being visible on my right peripheral, then begins to "grow" in a semi-circular pattern of what seems to be mostly a string of triangles each time I blink.
Then it just goes away. "Wonder what causes that?" (:
Prayers for all,
MDC
December 11, 2012 - Msg 91447: It's on the left side, MDC. There is a specific name for it, but it eludes me. It is called a type of migraine, even if it isn't accompanied by a headache. I never did get a headache today.

Boo
December 11, 2012 - Msg 91448: Good morning porch family. . .
Subbing today in music class. She has videos lined up for me - Charlie Brown Christmas and then Little Mermaid. Not really sure how they both go together but I am happy to see Charlie Brown. (Christmas time is here.. . . )

My dad went back into the hospital last week. He has a bad valve and he has made peace with the Lord. He is a good Christian man and so when his time comes, it comes. He is 89. He was released Sunday evening back to the health care center where he and mom both reside. He is in the assisted living and mom in the ahlzheimers unit. Literally - not very far apart.

Boo - I have missed what is happening with Sean but I know (like Casey) it is way too much for a teenager to handle. They have each experienced a different kind of childhood. We know that God has great things in store for Casey. Many good people have been put in his path - many of them are Texans! :) I know that Sean and you are very close. That is how Casey and I are. We are the ones who get the news at the doctor when they do. We know what is going on with our kids better than their daddy's do.

Well - must get something accomplished today!!

Prayers and blessings to all. . . .

hm


December 11, 2012 - Msg 91449: Right, HM. I have been keeping up with your posts on facebook concerning Casey and I feel for him. It must be a difficult thing for him at his age, especially. I hope you Dad does well...

Boo
December 11, 2012 - Msg 91450: Thanks Boo - I hope it didn't sound cold hearted but my dad is ready for his final destination. Thanks for your prayers.

Watching Charlie Brown for the second time. The teacher left notes that this is a terribly behaved class. I try to come to an understanding that respect goes both ways. It is the time of the year that all the kids get antsy! So far so good! I guess I could get RO here to police the situation for me if it gets tooo out of hand! :) :)

hm


December 11, 2012 - Msg 91451: Good morning, porch! Boo and MDC, I have heard those auras referred to as an ocular migraine. Here's a link that covers it pretty well: http://www.allaboutvision.com/conditions/ocular-migraine.htm. Check it out.

I think I'm going to be forced to clean my big old window today, if it warms up enough out there. Right now it's only 31°, and if I tried to wash the window, the water would freeze! Now that the leaves are "leaving" (sorry) the sun hits the window all morning, and late in the afternoon. The sycamore still has its leaves, and still shades the window in the early afternoon. Anyway, when the sun is on it, I cannot see through the thing! It's dirty inside as well, which I proved by rubbing a little circle in one spot with a tissue - sort of like Briscoe Darling did when he and his family were inside that empty building and Andy caught them. Well, it's not quite that dirty, but it does reflect the sun and I can't see out very well. As long as the glass is shaded, it doesn't look dirty at all, but that sun really causes a problem. The outside won't be too difficult - just cold. The inside is a problem, because my desk is right up against the window and I can't get back there. No way I can move the desk, either. Oh well, I'll figure something out. I may have to clear the desk off and just get up on it. Don't anyone tell my kids!

hm, I'm sorry your dad is having problems, but so thankful that his future is secure. I had that same reassurance when I lost my parents, and while it doesn't make it easy - there's always the grief of missing them - at least you don't lose them forever. What a blessing, and what a heritage they have left you. My heart breaks for those who don't have that foundation. It's sad, because it's so simple. It's there for everyone, free for the asking.

R2 brought me the cutest little thing. It's a little plastic penguin, about 4 1/2" tall. He's wearing a Santa hat. He's jointed at three spots - his feet, his neck and where his hat meets his head. If you put him in a direct light, he does a little happy dance! His little rear end wags back and forth, his head moves side to side, and his hat moves in the opposite direction as his head moves. He's wearing a red muffler, and has the cutest little face. He makes me laugh just to look at him. When I left my bedroom this morning and walked into the office, there he was, in the sunlight on my desk, doing his little dance. Made me laugh out loud!

Well, guess I'd better go feed Toye Starr. She hates it when I stop off at the computer first thing in the morning, poor little thing. Breakfast is the last thing on my mind when I first get up, but it's a really big "first" for her, the little chow hound. Hmmm. Now that I'm talking about it, maybe I'll make myself a bowl of oatmeal. Haven't had any of that in a long time, and I do like it. I like the steel-cut oats, and I have some! I have some turbinado sugar too, and I'll bet it would just be fine in oatmeal. With some butter... yep, that's what I'm gonna do! Oatmeal and butter and turbinado sugar, yep, that's the plan.... Well here I go! Blessings! --Romeena
December 11, 2012 - Msg 91452: Who is "R2"? Coffee is the first thing on my mind when I wake up. Well, actually it is to feed the cat who is waiting outside my door every morning...groan.

I had such a full day yesterday that I am feeling like I could sleep all day today, but can't do that. Today I will concentrate on some of the household chores that have gotten behind over the last couple of days. I will assign some chores to the kids, too. Better get moving in the direction of my kitchen and tidy things up.

Boo

PS- be careful cleaning that window, Ro.

December 11, 2012 - Msg 91453: hI all,
I can used all your prayer right now?
Stepdad pass away this morn.

Mr.TOM

December 11, 2012 - Msg 91454: Oh no, I am so sorry TOM. I will be praying throughout the day.

Boo
December 11, 2012 - Msg 91455: So sorry Tom - we will be praying for you too. . .

hm
December 11, 2012 - Msg 91456: Prayers, Tom. So sorry to hear of your loss.

*******************
possum under a rock
December 11, 2012 - Msg 91457: So very sorry Tom. You are in my prayers friend.

Asa
December 11, 2012 - Msg 91458: Tom, so sorry for your loss, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Big Maude
December 11, 2012 - Msg 91459: TOM, So sorry for your loss You are in my prayers Buddy!.....G-F...
December 11, 2012 - Msg 91460: Oh, Tom. I'm so sorry. I know you're going to miss him. Even though caring for him was a big job, and he was so sick and unhappy, you're still going to miss him very much. You know we love you, and you can come here at any time and talk with friends about it. Most of all, you can talk with God about it. How does that song go? "Have a little talk with Jesus, tell him all about your troubles." I will be praying for you, my friend, in these next few days. God bless you and keep you! --Romeena
December 11, 2012 - Msg 91461:
Tom....my heart and prayers go out for you buddy. I am so very sorry for your loss. You can rest assured that you made his life much better with all you did for him.
Bless you!
-REV.
December 11, 2012 - Msg 91462: Good evening, porch! I just got home from the Deacons and Wives Christmas dinner at church. The widows of deacons are always included, and one of the current deacons always calls and picks us up, drives us to the church, and we sit at their table. My friend LaRue, who is also a deacon's widow, and I went with Robert and Pat, our good friends of many years. Pat is also my SS teacher, and has meant so much to me for a long time. The food was delicious, the fellowship was precious, and a good time was had by all. Also, I brought home a beautiful poinsettia. They always decorate with poinsettias, then at the end of the evening, the widows are encouraged to take one home.

At this time of year, I'm always so grateful for my church family. Most of those folks have been my friends for almost forty years, and there are so many good memories there. There are new friends too, and I cherish them as well, but the old friends - well, they're just special. God is good. --Romeena

December 11, 2012 - Msg 91463: Hey gang!..Boo card was so sweet hon...ok let me get to reading and get the comp logged on...prayers...here all night...SPOT
December 11, 2012 - Msg 91464:
Folks, you know that I dont take any stock in the Dec. 21 thing, but this has been such a strange Christmas season. Maybe it was the lingering election results, the impending "cliff" tht's coming, the still poor economy, my dad's situation, etc, but it has been VERY hard for me to get into any spirit this year. Forgive me for expressing this on the porch,
but now the news of TOM's stepdad, and HM's dad,
has added to my "downness." I have always tried to be positive, and I DO have a stong faith,
but all the current situations have really
had an affect.
Tom, My deepest sympathies to you friend, may your stepdad rest in peace. My prayers are with you!
HM--all the best to you any yours as you also face this crisis of losing your dad.
SPOT- hang in there buddy, I know this must be tough on you as well.
Well, evening all. Maybe I'll do my 12 Days of Mayberry tomorrow to try to lighten my mood!
I love you all, and I thank you for your moral support! (:
MDC
December 12, 2012 - Msg 91465: Yea MDC Christmas will be a bit different this year but good family and friends help out!...Hey Romeena...Tom I can feel your pain...Prayers your way long time friend...Rev you on the road?..Christmas Concert?Hey hm,MDC...Boo lets you and I get breakfast at I-hop..I will buy and you bring the paper ok...Possum you want me to pick you up in town?..be at the curb...prayers..and come on 6am...ready to head home...SPOT
December 12, 2012 - Msg 91466: Hi folks,
Just wanted to drop in before I have to take Noah to the doctor for his checkup. I found this article today and thought it might be of interest to those who like WWII stuff and airplanes(I know there are a couple of you at least, including me), as well as to the others simply for the uplifting story that it is. You may have already seen it before, but if you haven't, here it is. Oh, and there is a nice little video with the two men of the story on the second page of the article.
http://www.nypost.com/p/news/national/wings_of_an_angel_m7W8NXNsFsgsqcf5YKPGzO/0

Talk to you all later.
Sterling Holobyte
December 12, 2012 - Msg 91467: I know just how you feel, MDC. I am dealing with some family issues to that are about to give me an ulcer...same old drama with sis-in-law coming down this week and already causing problems before she is even here. She sent me an email this morning that absolutely had me so angry I was literally shaking, and folks, that isn't easy to do. I am of a rather easygoing personality, normally. I am trying so hard to let go and not let it effect me. It is kind of like when someone tells you not to think about something and of course, you can't NOT think about it. Ug! I don't drink, but if I did! My nerves are shot and the day is just beginning. I am really trying not to let other people's opinions effect me so much. How do I do that? Help!

I'm glad you liked the card, SPOT. :)

G-F, I got your card yesterday and laughed out loud! Where on earth did you find something like that? HAHAHA

Better get started on the chores.

Boo
December 12, 2012 - Msg 91468:
Morning porch family....a little chilly here today. Feels good!

MDC....you're right...there's so much happening around us it's real easy to get down. But I always TRY to remind myself that these things are around me not in me cause "Greater is HE that is IN me than he that is in the world".....now notice I said I TRY to remind myself of that but sometimes it's hard and I let it get me down as well. Stay strong brother....you are one very special dude!

Ro....so glad you had a great time with your church family.....they are some special folks there!

Spot.....nope...I don't go back on the road until January 3rd....and I'm loving these few weeks at home. Praying for you brother especially during this Christmas season.....I know it's going to be a little tougher time this year but remember you have your porch family here!

Boo....hang in there....I know you have, but I'd talk it over with Bruce again. I am certainly not saying you should do this but there sometimes comes a time that we just have to cut all ties even with a family member...as hard as that may sound. Not that you stop loving them or praying for them but if they are harming you emotionally in a way that can cause you physical harm....it just may be time to make a strong stand. Praying for you!

Well gang I better get doing some things around here. You all have a very blessed day!
Love and prayers
-REV.
December 12, 2012 - Msg 91469: Morning porch, hope all is well today. cold on my
end of the porch... guess it is supposed to be though. Guess, those 60 and 70 degree days spoiled us.

Prayers for Tom and family. hang in there Tom.

things continue to be busy around here. I am taking some time off the week of Christmas until January 2nd. will be good to be off but makes for a harried work schedule right now.

Boo: I echo what the Rev says about family issues. sometime you gotta step away and choose not to participate in others peoples drama and
chaos. doesn't mean we stop praying but just stop participating.

Please remember our little fur dog Belle. We took her to the doggie emergency office last evening due to some gastrointestinal issues she had since about Sunday. Things did not seem to be getting better on their own so my son, his girlfriend and my and I took her when I got home from work. Turns out she has feline pancreatitis. They kept her overnight and put in IV antibiotics and fluids. My husband picked her up from their very early this morning and took her straight to our vet. Hopefully, they will monitor her today and let us bring her home this evening. not sure why she got this but hopefully she will recover. I know all you pet lovers can relate.

Lunch will be at Cracker Barrel my treat. maybe we can run into Possum!

Prayers and blessings to all.

Big Maude
December 12, 2012 - Msg 91470:
Anyone hear from the Hughbacher brothers up in state prison? (:
December 12, 2012 - Msg 91471:
Maude....prayers for your little doggy Belle....hope she gets better real soon.

I haven't heard anything latey from the Hughbacher brothers.....But I did hear they really got good at crafts.
-REV.
December 12, 2012 - Msg 91472: Boo, Glad ya liked my card as I said you didn't think you were getting a normal one from me...
I got your's & TOM's too, Thanks! Why didn't Bernie sign it too? ha..Oh by the way, I got the card at "Bats-R-Us don't ya know ;) G-F....
December 12, 2012 - Msg 91473: SH,Great video, I have heard the story, but never saw the video of the two of them meeting..That is way cool. Thanks for the post I love the Old WW2 stuff...G-F..
December 12, 2012 - Msg 91474: Thank you so much REV and Maude. I know you are right on this one and it helps alot to hear people I love and respect confirm it. I am feeling much better, thanks.

I'm very sorry your dog is not feeling well, Maude. I am confused, though...it is a dog you are talking about, but you mentioned "feline Pacreatitis"..?

Better get back to the chores.

Oh, and yes, I got TOM's christmas card. I hope he is doing ok today.

Boo
December 12, 2012 - Msg 91475:
Hi Barney Parney Poo! (:

December 12, 2012 - Msg 91476: Boo, I am a little crazy today . She has canine pancreatitis.
I thought about that post later today . They are keeping her at the vets again tonight. She is still on I've antibiotics and fluids.

Thanks ,
Big Maude
December 12, 2012 - Msg 91477: Good evening, porch! Sounds like a little of the pre-Christmas blues has hit our little family. Not unusual, but trust me - just find or create a time where you can settle back, with soft lights and some pretty Christmas music, with a loved one nearby, or a furkid, or even just you and the Lord, and let the feeling of the Season come over you. It will come, if you'll let it.

Big Maude, I'm sorry your little Belle isn't feeling good. Pancreatitis is miserable, whether you're a kitty, a dog, or a people. Poor baby. The best thing for her is cage rest, IV support, antibiotics and time. As for where or how she got it, you'll probably never know. After she recovers though, you may want to monitor her for diabetes for a while. Your vet will probably mention that.

Our Bentley is recovering from his surgery, and we're waiting for the pathology on the lesions that were removed. I think the vet was a bit suspicious of one of them. We've got about a week to wait. Meanwhile, I think Bentley's worst problem is hurt feelings. He's clearly not happy with David and Brittney, or he wasn't. I think he's better today. He is the most sensitive dog I've ever seen. You can just crush him with a word!

All these Christmas cards! So beautiful! I haven't gotten mine done yet, but it's on the list. G-F, I don't know if you chose that squirrel especially for me, but it couldn't have been more appropriate. I'm going to email you a picture of a squirrel who destroyed a chaise lounge cushion in my back yard. He was so cute, I just let him have the bloomin' cushion! He (or she) hauled all the stuffing away first, then a few days later I spotted the cover itself, high up in my neighbor's big cottonwood. How on earth that little critter got that thing up there, I don't know, but there it was. Too funny!

Someone asked who R2 is. That would be Robbi and Richard. They coined the R2 collective name after they married, and often sign things with it. I think it's pretty clever. I miss them since they went back home. It was just a joy having them here. Perfect "houseguests", though as family, they hardly qualify as guests. They got so many things done around here that I probably would not have done if it was left to me. My house looks like a Christmas store, and praise the Lord, Robbi took a big plastic bin of excess Christmas stuff home with her! Now when Heather comes in a week or so, I'll try to get her to do the same.

Blessings, everyone! See you in the morning. --Romeena
December 12, 2012 - Msg 91478: Oh, Boo. I wanted to tell you - I think you're absolutely right. Just remove yourself from her games, refuse to be drawn in, and if she zeroes in on you and seems determined to pull you into her spiteful little orbit, just simply tell her that you understand that she has some issues, but they're hers, not yours, and you prefer not to be involved. Then change the subject, or walk away if necessary. In other words, BIG FREEZE! --Romeena
December 12, 2012 - Msg 91479: Romeena, thanks for the encouragement about Belle. We have been so worried and upset. I wasn't sure if the vet keeping her again tonight. Hopefully, she will be home in a few days.

Big Maude
December 12, 2012 - Msg 91480: Boo, I just read through your post again, and I see that you asked a direct question, which I really didn't answer. You asked how you keep her from affecting you. It's hard, it really is. If she habitually targets you with spiteful email, maybe you could just not open it, or save it all up and open it at one time, then make a little ritual of deleting them, one by one. Do not respond to them. That's what she wants. If you absolutely give no sign of having received them, her curiosity will make her crazy. Eventually, she'll ask you about them, with any luck it will be in the presence of other people. At that point, you reply something like, "Oh, that email? Well dear, it was so hateful and spiteful, that I just knew you didn't really mean it that way and were probably wishing you hadn't sent it, so I just deleted it. Let's forget it, shall we?" Where can she go from there? If she says she did mean it, everyone in earshot will think she's nuts. And - if she does say that, then you just tell her you're sorry she feels that way, but it's her problem, and she'll have to deal with it, because you refuse to spend any of your time on the matter, it's not worth it. Then smile and offer her some coffee! --Romeena
December 12, 2012 - Msg 91481:
Good advice Ro...good advice!
-REV.
December 12, 2012 - Msg 91482: Back here at work to keep lights on...let me get logged in and read.....SPOT
December 12, 2012 - Msg 91483: Boo...post 91742 The Bats-R-Us store is right next to Cymbal City..sorta like a 1 stop shop! for all your needs.(I think there is a Karate Studio there too, also there is a Diamond Jim's on the end).
G-F....
December 12, 2012 - Msg 91484: Hey SPOT....Just had a thought, you always say in your posts that you're at work to keep the lights on. Maybe when you retire you can get a part-time job @ Motel 6 They always are looking for help keeping the lights on, Tom Bodell can't do it all....G-F
December 12, 2012 - Msg 91485: Sorry that was Tom Bodett who said that! Wonder if you go to a Motel 6 in Amish Country if they leave the light on for you? Think I'll study on that one for awhile...G-F
December 12, 2012 - Msg 91486: Ro, you always put a smile on my face. :) My sister and I were just talking about you on the phone. I mentioned something about the porch and she asked, "Are you still on there?!! How many years now?" and she wanted to know how Romeena was doing and Rev and Maude and MDC...those were the ones she remembered. I try to encourage her to come sit with us some but she respectfully declines because she sees this as my place to come and share. I wish she would reconsider, though.

Ro, I loved your response and I have decided not to engage her at all. It didn't take me long to make that decision after reading the hatred she was spewing at me. Who needs it? She really is mentally ill and very toxic...dysfunction and pain follow her like a shadow. I feel for her, but I can't help her. When I have in the past, it has not been appreciated and she is now treating me worse than anyone ever has. It is verbal abuse and it ends today. She even insulted my deceased father. I can say with a clear conscience that I have done nothing to her at all..she is just not normal and is filled with rage and anger. When Bruce read her correspondence to me today, he forbade me or anyone else in this household to contact her in anyway. I removed her from my facebook page so there is no possible way of her sending me her hate mail unless she sends it by email. I won't open it if she does. It's time to shut the door to the pain she has caused. It has been something every few months...some new accusation or anger toward us, while we mind our own business, care for her aging mother, and have only done her good. It is a repeating cycle and it ends today. No more. She is hurting this family, and it needs to stop.

The weather certainly has been beautiful here today...60 degrees and sunny. Really nice. Hope the rest of you aren't too cold.

I am going to have to head to bed soon...its been a long day! :)

Boo
December 12, 2012 - Msg 91487:
Hey Folks

I've missed stopping around and "chewing the fat" with you folks. It has been a trying couple of years on this end of the Porch. Our family unit is still strong but has been tested, for sure. I've wanted many times to ask my good friends here about a health situation that we have been dealing with but at times have lost the inner strength to do so. Many times I have started typing and then just deleted it. It felt so painful. However, I believe we may have turned the corner and are closer to being up right here. I wanted to let all of you know that The Porch helped ease some of the tension and anxiety. Stumbling over to the computer and just rocking and reading. Thanks for that.

Romeena- Awhile back, sometime in the Spring, you posted "Pray like it depends on God and work like it depends on you." It wasn't to me but thank you.

Well, it's cold here and we have a few inches of snow on the ground, not much, but all is white. I do enjoy that.

Spot-You watching a movie tonight.

Tom-Sorry for your loss, prayers have been offered buddy.

G-F I hope ya keep me posted on the weather front.

Peace & Prayers,
auh2o
December 13, 2012 - Msg 91488: Good morning my dear Porch buddy's. I hope the day finds you well and happy.
Great to hear from you Auh2o. I hope and pray your situation is improved. The porch is a great place to come and be lifted up. Wonderful people here. I couldn't help but notice that after Tom had posted about his Step Father passing away, for the rest of the day there were numerous posts of prayers and condolences for Tom and his family. A kind of quiet respectful day in honor of Tom and his pain. And it was all done without any coordination. Just folks here, who love one another, and can bare one another's burdens when the need arises. And we all have that need now and again.

Well I'm getting cards from so many of you now. Thank you. I love them. Some are bringing me tears of joy (Boo), and some tears of laughter (Goober Fife). And all are bringing me joy. Mine are all ready to go. Just need to get to the post office and buy some stamps. They'll be sent this weekend.

Sounds like you've resolved things well there Boo. Some folks are just mean and nasty. And feel the need to be so with others. Just ignoring them is probably the most effective thing you can do. Probably drive her nuts. She may amp up her efforts for a while to try and snare you, but you keep up the big freeze and she will lose interest I'm sure and move on to her next victim. Sometimes "turning the other cheek" may mean turning our back to them. :) (probably not, but better than engaging them) lol

Big Maude, I pray your little Belle, and that she is getting better.

Well I better get. Got a long day on tap.
Prayers for all.

Asa
December 13, 2012 - Msg 91489: Yes, Boo it is hard to deal with "crazy" people (I really hate useing that term) because alot of people deal & have to deal with people who have mental health issues,and crazy is a cruel term.
But in some cases some people are just plain NUTS!! They find enjoyment in making others miserable..Like, "Misery loves company or something"? Well I for one don't like keeping company with Misery, it doesent make a good bed fellow. I work hard not to co-sign those folks checks..Yes, I do speak from experiance! I think it really makes those people MAD to see others who are happy & joyfull. So yes, I do Pi$$ off alot of angry people both at home & at work..
THERE, I SAID IT AND I AIN'T TAKIN IT BACK!!

As I stated before."Life's to short,and so am I"!

So I'll leave you folks today with this M*A*S*H quote: "Ladies & gentelman take my advise, pull down you're pants and slide on the ice"!
Goober-Fife MD....
December 13, 2012 - Msg 91490: Wonderful to see you, Auh2o. I am glad that things are taking a turn for the better and that your porch family can be a comfort and encouragement to you. You are a good and kind man and you deserve a place to rest here among friends. (((HUGS)))

What a lovely post, Asa. You have a gift when it comes to expressing yourself. I agree with you that some folks act just mean and nasty and this is the case with my SIL, Vicki, and she is truly a miserable person who is to be pitied. I will continue to pray for her, and I wish things were different but the line had to be drawn in the sand. Interestingly, she has chosen another victim(s) since her youngest son married 2 months ago. I had an email from a good friend named Laurie. Laurie is the aunt of Vicki's new daughter in law. It seems Vicki is causing major strife in that family already and her son's new mother in law wants nothing further to do with Vicki...already. Good for her. It is going to be some trying times for them and I suggested a book for my friend called, "Setting Boundaries With Difficult People" and advised her to get it now! Vicki's son and his new wife are expecting their first child in January and I was remembering that 11 years ago when I was in labor with Erin, Vicki was at the hospital and was causing a scene and throwing a fit because my own sister was going to be present for the delivery and she wasn't. I was taken aback by the selfishness of someone who would be a bother to a woman in labor at a time like that. I can only imagine what she might try when it is time for her first grandchild to be born next month. I will be watching the news for reports that say something like, "Berserk new grandmother assualts son's mother in law!". ;)

Well, I had hired a cleaning lady to help me today but she bailed on me. She had a good reason to, though. I can hear Sean wretching in the bathroom. He has been up throwing up all night with what I guess is a stomach virus. I am supposed to be getting everything ready to host the deacon's party over here tomorrow evening. Oh well...gonna be a long day.

You are so right, G-F.

Boo
December 13, 2012 - Msg 91491:
Hello porch family.....another chilly day here on this end of the porch.

So good to hear from you Auh2o...you're always missed when you've been away for a while but we keep your rocker dusted off for you!

Boo....way to go girl...that's the very best thing you can do with your sil:)

Asa...you're a jewel buddy!

You all have a blessed day and chat with ya a little later:)
Love and prayers
-REV.
December 13, 2012 - Msg 91492:
Thanks gang. I do plan on rocking regular again. It just feels right. The hayseed is home.

I've also started a facebook page, quite awhile ago, and I have one friend, Boo. So, if any of you folks wanna connect on FB I'll be listed as one of Boo's friends. I have Don Knotts as an image. Don Knotts from "The Ghost and Mr Chicken."

I guess we my have a green Christmas here this year. I think the odds are 50-50.

MDC-I hope you can get in a happier way. But, I know what you mean.

Well thanks again and it's good to be back.
auh2o


December 13, 2012 - Msg 91493: Hey auh2o, Good to have ya back, I thought ya were already hunkered down for the winter..Yep I'll keep ya posted on the weather.

Sorry gang for my earlier post, but Boo's delema with "mean" people really struck a nerve with me.
"Let there be peace in the valley"....Why can't we all just get along? Really,..it's not that hard...

Asa, Hope you didn't get to scared when ya opened my card..ha I made sure there were no eggs in it too...
G-F.....
December 13, 2012 - Msg 91494: I just "friended" you over on FB, auh2o. Wasn't sure who you were until you described your Don Knotts image.

My Christmas cards will be mailed tomorrow,if I can get to the Post Office.Thanks to everyone who sent me a card. Boo, you made me cry, girlfriend!

Y'all take care & stay warm. Dang, it's cold here!

*******************
possum under a rock
December 13, 2012 - Msg 91495: Good afternoon, porch! It's been a beautiful, pleasant day here, 65° right now. Will drop fast when the sun goes down, though. Eddie came to clean up the yard - heavy leaf load already down, lots more still on the trees. R2 and I had gotten most of them up from the front, but the back was loaded. I think I made Eddie's day when I paid him his regular amount, then told him I didn't want the leaves blown out of the flowerbeds, and only a rough raking or blowing off of the ones on the grass. He had planned to mow both yards, but I told him just to leave them. The grass hasn't grown much, and in two weeks the leaves will need cleaning up again, and a mow-over will really spruce it up at that time. Anyway, by making those adjustments, I cut at least an hour and a half of work off his day, and I was happy to do it. As my dad used to say, if someone sometimes does more than they're paid for, then they should sometimes be paid for more than they do. And Eddie often does. He takes care of me, and besides, it's Christmas!

Boo, I'm glad to hear that you've resolved not to let that spiteful woman make you miserable. Just pity her, pray for her, and stand your ground. If she's present at any of your family Christmas doings, and starts causing trouble, everyone needs to just ignore her. Simply look at her, and turn away without a response. You may need to agree on that before she shows up. She'll probably escalate her efforts, at which time Bruce may have to take her aside and tell her that she'll have to leave. It reminds me of years ago, when my Heather's older boys were little. One would try to bully her with a tantrum now and then, and she would simply say "I understand that you're upset, but you need to pick up your little fit and take it into your bedroom, and have it there. When you're done, you may come back in here." If he didn't, she carried him in there, put him on the floor and left him there to scream. It would only be a minute or two until he'd come sniffling back into the room and ask, in a very small voice, if he could stay. Of course, he could. So, if SIL behaves like a toddler, then she may have to be treated like one, but under no circumstances should she be allowed to ruin everyone's Christmas.

As for that poor new daughter-in-law - I think SIL's son is going to have to take charge there. He loves his mother, (I guess) but he's married now, and his first loyalty is now to his wife. "For this cause a man shall leave his father and mother, and cleave unto his wife." He should protect her, and allow no one to mistreat her, not even his own mother. It won't be easy, but he is the one that will have to do it. Not the new wife, and certainly not her family. To be effective, it has to come from him. Will he do it? What do you think?

Well, I've got a craving for some Chinese food tonight. I think I'll call and order some. There's a place here that has good food, a lot of it, delivers, and isn't very expensive. For about $15 plus a tip for the driver, I'll have waaaay more food than I'll eat tonight. I'll get lunch tomorrow, and maybe even dinner again tomorrow night out of it. At that rate, it becomes pretty cheap!

auh2o, it's so good to have you back on the porch. We've really missed you, and it just seems more like "home" when you're around. I'm glad you're planning to stick around.

Well, the sun is down, it's starting to get pretty cool, and it's getting cold in the house, too. Think I'll bump the old thermostat up a degree or two. I have to think of little Toye Starr, she's so tiny she gets cold easily, and she's down there where it's pretty cool. Blessings! --Romeena
December 13, 2012 - Msg 91496: Evening porch, on my way to the ole ironing board and thought I would say good night.

Patrick , his girlfriend and Beth have gone to a Christmas concert (acoustic Christmas) and Mr. Maude had to go into work for a while. The store closes at 9 but the company is doing some construction in the pharmacy and one of the
Pharmacists has to be there. It will probably be very late when
He comes home. Then I he has to go back in at 2pm.

Little Belle is still at the vets hooked up to IV's . They said they will try giving her some ice chips tomorrow and see how she tolerates that. Guess this is normal protocol for her pancreatitis. Still makes me worry and the house feels kinda empty. I know how Opie felt with the birdcage being empty.

Warm cookies and milk for snack. Ya'll have a good sleep.

Prayers all around.
Big Maude


December 13, 2012 - Msg 91497: Hi All.
Thank Mrs.FISH for the flower.
May my day to see thim.
No one but and me brother send thim.
Will tomorro will be the hared day for my.
Just prayer that I mak it .
Mr.TOM

PSI will read post win i can,
December 13, 2012 - Msg 91498:
Hey Tom

Hang in there buddy. You'll make it. I can tell you're a strong guy. We're here praying for ya and supporting you.

Thank you Romeena, G-F, & possum.

auh2o
December 13, 2012 - Msg 91499:
Well it's almost bedtime here in the REV household but wanted to check in real quick. Got eye doctor app tomorrow morning. Praying my eye pressure is still down since changing to generic drops.

Tom...so glad you checked in buddy....Will certainly continue to pray for you as you go through this tough time.

You all have a good night and a Jesus filled day tomorrow.
Love and prayers
-REV.